This post has been due in that one can learn so many things about ones perspective having been engaged with the realities. So it was with me that I was at a loss of how to deal with, that my sweet wife gave me a book to read. It has been a source of comfort in that you get to understand the process that your own wife may be going through.
Men most certainly can come in all sizes that you quickly see how the differences between men and women shows itself as one reads. Men, did you know you can get it too? Ultimately, it is about listening to your wife.
|Breast Cancer Husband|
Marc Silver on Marc Silver:
I’m the author of BREAST CANCER HUSBAND: How to Help Your Wife (And Yourself) Through Diagnosis, Treatment, and Beyond, and a great believer in the motto of the breast cancer husband: “Shut up and listen.” Really, it works for just about any husband.
When Marsha was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, I wished I had a book to guide me through the difficult months ahead, because I had no clue what to do. In the spring of 2002, after Marsha finished her treatments, I began working on the proposal for BREAST CANCER HUSBAND. Even though many publishers told me that “men don’t buy self-help books,” I was sure this was one book that guys would buy–and if they didn’t, their wives would buy it for them.
This book has been a constant reference guide for me.When at a loss of focus it helped bring the focus back.
In hind sight when talking with my wife we came to some conclusions about the process itself in that when ever she had to make a decision it should have been from having all the information available. By having it at her finger tips further decisions could have been made better. So an additional resource that helped was something your surgeon may make inclusive in your package for what decisions you make about the choices given.
|Intelligent Patient Guide to Breast Cancer
5th edition, 2011.
by Ivo Olivotto, Karen Gelmon, David McCready and Urve Kuusk. This book is available free of charge in the kit. It can also be borrowed from the BC Cancer Agency Library or can be purchased at your local bookstore.
This is very important information and a woman can be inundated with a lot considering her feelings and bombardment of what she has to face. Here I put of importance the help of your Cancer Coordinator as to the help in clarifications as vital. Even as I sit trying to scoop as much info as I can, being impacted emotional as well one tends to miss questions as my wife did or just could not process.
We have reflected on this as wondering if we could have taped or recorded the conversation so as to get the full scope of the process your surgeon may reveal to you. So we saw this as a possible avenue you might want to take so you can go back an see exactly what was said. This might be useful.